Recognition and Criticism: The Silent Power of Feedback in Motivation

Many people feel that time is passing faster than ever. In our attempt to keep up with everything life demands, we sometimes end up being less attentive or empathetic than we should be with those around us. Even basic politeness in communication seems to have faded in messages that are increasingly quick, direct, and impersonal.

On the wall in front of my workspace, I keep several post-its with reflections and meaningful images — small reminders of ideas I consider important. One of them contains a powerful quote from Maya Angelou:

“People will forget what you said, they will forget what you did, but they’ll never forget how you made them feel.”

This thought carries profound wisdom. Events from the past that affected us emotionally tend to remain deeply rooted in our memories. We may not remember all the details, but we rarely forget the emotions certain experiences created.

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A Moment That Stayed With Me

A recent fact reminded me of an experience from earlier in my career.

At one point, I was assigned to develop extensive materials for the work I was doing. I dedicated many hours to producing high-quality content. And back then, we did not have the conveniences we have today, such as AI assistants.

When I finished the material, I sent it to my leader as an email attachment, including a few notes explaining the content I had developed. I remember feeling very satisfied with the result and with the supporting explanations.

When I received the reply, I expected to see some feedback about the work — perhaps suggestions for improvement or comments on the content itself.

However, the response was brief and direct. It contained only one remark: my email would look better with some formatting adjustments, such as using bullet points.

For me, it felt like a bucket of cold water.

After so many hours of dedication, there was no comment on the deliverable's quality, no acknowledgment of the effort, and no critical analysis of the content. Only a cosmetic observation about the formatting of the email.

It is not my intention to judge my leader’s motives or speculate about what prompted that response. The fact is that the effect was immediate: disappointment and demotivation. After all, we expect leaders not only to evaluate deliverables but also to guide and develop the people they work with.

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The Balance Between Recognition and Criticism

This episode illustrates a phenomenon that occurs frequently in professional environments.

Many times, we only remember to give feedback when something bothers us. We tend to point out flaws, adjustments, or corrections, but we dedicate far less attention to recognizing qualities, efforts, and achievements.

Receiving genuine and deserved praise can be extremely motivating. It gives us energy to keep producing, improving, and contributing more.

This does not mean that mistakes or opportunities for improvement should not be addressed. On the contrary, clear and well-grounded feedback is essential for professional growth. The key issue lies in the way, the context, and the balance in which feedback is delivered.

On the other hand, when in the middle of many well-done things we receive only criticism — especially when it is superficial or not constructive — the effect can be the opposite. We may start to feel that the extra effort is simply not worth it.

That is why the way we communicate, especially when we occupy leadership roles, deserves attention.

Recognizing what is done well is a powerful driver of engagement and productivity. Likewise, thoughtful, development-oriented constructive feedback shows respect for the work performed and genuine interest in people’s growth.

Small gestures also matter — both in personal interactions and digital communication: greeting people respectfully, thanking them for their dedication, or acknowledging good work help build healthier professional relationships.

Sometimes there is a belief that because we strongly believe in someone’s potential, we can place heavier demands on them and be excessively harsh in our criticism. High expectations may be necessary — but they should never replace recognition.

Valuing contributions in context, highlighting what is working well, and guiding improvements when needed creates a more balanced and productive environment.

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Three Simple Practices for Leaders When Giving Feedback

The reflection on recognition and criticism may seem conceptual, but a few simple practices can make a significant difference in daily team interactions:

1️⃣ Recognize effort and results

When someone dedicates time and energy to a deliverable, acknowledging the work done can be a powerful motivator. Recognition does not need to be exaggerated — it simply needs to be sincere.

2️⃣ Differentiate content from form

Corrections are part of any development process, but it is important to distinguish between structural or cosmetic aspects and the value of the work itself. Good feedback contextualizes both.

3️⃣ Balance improvement and appreciation

Teams grow when they understand what needs improvement, but also when they clearly see what they are already doing well. The balance between recognition and guidance strengthens trust and engagement.

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A Final Reflection

Perhaps we need to watch ourselves a little more carefully to avoid becoming overly harsh and to be more mindful about how we communicate. Being kind and empathetic does not mean being complacent. It means dedicating a bit more attention to the people around us, even in the middle of busy routines.

Returning to Maya Angelou’s reflection, this is not about being “nice.” Recognizing and treating others with respect is not a sign of weakness — it is a sign of maturity and humanity.

And perhaps it is one of the most important lessons we can carry into both our professional and personal relationships: to treat others as we would like to be treated — with respect, recognition, consideration, and compassion.

Reflect:

Have you been criticizing too much and recognizing too little?

Does your feedback tend to uplift people—or diminish them?

Do people leave your conversations feeling more motivated or more discouraged?

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